This is a series of 10 attitudes for Singles or Couples to adopt in order to be successful in relationships:

Relationship Attitude #1: “I am happy by setting goals and letting go of the outcome.”

This may seem strange at first.  Isn’t the whole reason for having goals to achieve a positive outcome?   Well, yes and no.  You see, while we all need to set goals and work towards achieving them, in the end, we often have no control over what happens.  There are goals that we have a lot of control over – Daily exercise, eating healthy, taking supplements everyday, getting to work on time and doing my best while there. 

But there are other goals, especially around relationships, that we really have little control over. For instance, you may have a goal to be in a fulfilling relationship within a year. Now if you do everything you can, to reach that goal, you will improve your chances. However, there is always the unknown.  You really don’t have direct control over this, in spite of what the Law of Attraction teaches.  You cannot control other people, but you can control yourself!

So what do you do instead?

You work at improving yourself, physically, emotionally, socially and what ever other way you need to improve, then you let go of the outcome.  If you are living the Life You Love, the rest will work out to your advantage.  We must get used to not being able to control everything. Like the old Rolling Stones’ song says, “You can’t always get what you want!  But if you try sometime, you might just find, you get what you need!”  You can be happy with what you’ve got!

My next blog post will be Relationship Attitude #2: I strive to live and be in the present!”  Please check back soon!


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ABOUT CAROL: Carol has been married for 43 years and has been a successful Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist for 21 years.    As a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist & Workshop Presenter, Carol presents workshops for both Singles & Couples! Over the years, she has helped thousands of Singles & Couples FIND, CREATE & KEEP LASTING LOVE and Begin the Journey to the Relationship of their DREAMS!  Carol is  now transitioning to a Coaching Practice so she can offer more services without the stigma of her clients having to have a Mental Disorder!  Why not let Carol help you to create the Relationship of your Dreams as well?



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